It's easy to reason that it's just one slice, or just a little frosting on the finger, or just one cuss word, or just one cigarette, but the core issue in the battle of self-control is the inability to just say no. Not a little, or maybe or just this once. No.
How can I do all that God has called me to do if I'm unwilling to surrender my most intimate thing to Him? My food. My comfort. My pleasure. My will and my right to indulge. My body.
Sharing is dangerous. When you choose to open yourself up and pour yourself out, not everyone will like what you have to say. But God wants us to share anyway.
Taking the time to understand their personalities and their insecurities opened up my eyes to see who they had the potential to be as adults. It’s our privilege to help cultivate and shape these little people into their full potential.
It's all about being real and being duplicatable. If I don't look perfect than the women I mentor won't feel the need to look perfect. If I don't skip the pool because of my imperfect body, my kids won't feel like they need to hide their imperfections. If I let my neighbor see my mess, maybe she'll let me in on her mess and I can share the love of Jesus with her.
What if I gave myself the same measure of grace I give them? What if I said, "Ok mama, why did you do that?" and I took the time to realize that I stayed up too late the night before and was cranky the next morning?
What I noticed, however, in the moments I was willing to slow down, stop multi-tasking and dig a little deeper, was that there was insecurity in the eyes of the tattler. If you take the time, you'll hear another tale beyond the "he said/she said" stuff. The tale of insecurity, fear of rejection and a longing for reassurance.
As I was snacking on my leftover veggie tray from the 4th of July, it occurred to me that life is kind of like a veggie tray. There are parts of it that we love, and parts that we don’t like even a little and sometimes, depending on what the tray has to offer, nothing at all that we want. The thing about it, though, is that it’s all good for you!